Afraid to Pray for Patience? Don’t Be!

Phyllis Nissila

Woke up this morning with an exciting new challenge on my mind, one that requires a bit of courage.

Even though the outcome, whichever way it goes, will be very good, thoughts around the particulars of this challenge can still cause some stress: chest tightens, pulse rate quickens.

The “they of therapy authority” often say, “The body doesn’t differentiate whether or not stress is good or bad. It reacts the same, either way.” So I’m not really surprised that something good can cause something bad.

But in my “mature age” I am becoming more mindful of, and attentive to, the body’s reactions to stress; therefore, I gave this old response some new thought.

Realization #1: the physiological reactions noted above didn’t surface until I prayed for more courage.


Why? I wondered.

Immediately, the old adage often heard in Christian circles surfaced front and center on my brain: “You better watch out what you pray for!”

(Okay. Breathe…)

This saying is commonly attached to prayers over patience, and those who hawk this notion often commence to offer illustrations involving horrid things that followed their own patience prayer that forced them to have to wait for, say, rent money or the results of lab tests for some dread disease.

You know the drill.

I suppose my brain somehow equates courage with patience; thus, still, apparently, under some influence of the dread-mongers, I succumbed again to the cinching chest and palpitating pulse.

But this is where I stopped action and employed …

Realization #2, as expressed thus: Really? What’s the truth of this? (I often employ my new-found de-stressing, chest-relaxing, pulse-chilling skills by asking myself questions.)

Immediately, a few heartening Scriptures came to mind that I share, here, in case some challenging event has YOU in a state of double-dread over the event and praying for “the P word.”

See if these bring your shoulders down from your ears a little bit while re-affirming the truth that your Heavenly Father really DOES give bread, not stone, when you ask for it:

But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint (Isaiah 40:31, KJV).

Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains.  You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near (James 5:7-8, NIV) (Note: This one is a kind of two-for-one deal, too: reminds us of the value of patience while at the same time reminding us of another great encouragement: the nearness of the Lord’s coming.)

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28, NIV).

And for dessert, sit yourself down and enjoy a heaping portion of all the times you said to yourself and maybe even to others, “Whoa! Amazing timing, God!” Or something like that.

It’s all good in Him.

Thanks, Lord.

(Bolding and praise, mine.)

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On God Theories and Free Will

sun-rays-2I recently listened to an interview with noted astrophysicist Bernard Haisch, author of the book The God Theory wherein he proposes a new answer to two old questions: why and how did everything come into being? From his background in both science and religion (he is also a former Catholic seminarian), Dr. Haisch hypothesizes, Continue reading

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How Did Jesus Treat Women?

I am re-posting a recent blog article written by Shirley Taylor at “bWe Baptist Women for Equality’s Blog,” found here:

Shirley’ promotional material notes that she “writes with humor and common sense, challenging the church body to reclaim equality for Christian women.” Continue reading

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Out of the Fire: On Leaving Roman Catholicism 10 (Called to Peace)

To the post script of my series on “Is it The Silent Treatment or Emotional Survival”* a commenter responded by acknowledging his own realization of the sometimes call to silence which prompted this next post in my series on leaving Roman Catholicism. May you find your peace today. Continue reading

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Is it The Silent Treatment or Emotional Survival? Part 5, Post Script

Post Script: lastly, in this series on the difference between the harmful “silent treatment” and appropriate (emotional) “survival treatment,” this reminder and direction from the book of Ecclesiastes:

(There is) “a time to be silent and a time to speak,” (3:7).

When we face down enemy, we need to discern.

As one preacher noted, sometimes our words accomplish what needs to be done in a fray, but at other times it’s our silence that facilitates resolution. Image result for image with ecclesiastes chapter 3 public domain ***

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Is it The Silent Treatment or Emotional Survival? Part 4, Medium Chill and Gray Rock

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Is it The Silent Treatment or Emotional Survival? Part 3, a re-blog, “Love: A Redemptive Force or an Enabling One?” ©, Cindy Burrell

Note: there are those called, I believe, to unwrap the riches of God’s Word on specific matters and by their faithfulness we get a glimpse again of the unfathomable love of God running deep in the Scriptures—despite other interpretations by some who would co-opt the Word for their own ends. The following re-post is one such example of the clarion call of God’s love revealed through the Word in the text and the Word “in the flesh,” Jesus Christ. It seems a fitting “part 3” in my series for targets of abuse in so-called Christian marriages. May those drawn to this message today be enlightened and encouraged. Continue reading

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